I think you blew it. But if I’d have been you, I might feel differently, and I’d probably justify myself in exactly the same way. However, I think you blew it, and two words in this excerpt reveal why: “force” and “coerce”. It is one thing to confront people about speech or actions you consider immoral. It’s quite another thing to take it upon yourself to embarrass people over issues of doubtful immorality and little consequence just because you think you have the inside track on what’s right and wrong, what’s really going on inside their heads, what constitutes proper behavior in a given social situation, etc. In your discussion you confuse these two quite different things, and use the former to excuse the latter. Several commendable reasons for Jack hushing up his tale present themselves (he didn’t want to embarrass Jill, for example), but you assume you know his motives and that they were unworthy — but even if that were true, you had no way to confirm your opinions before you acted on them, and even if you could do, your actions still remain unjustified. Suppose I had an invisible spirit who lived on my shoulder and whispered into my ear the secret motivations of everyone around me. Would I be justified in embarrassing people at every turn by airing their dirty motivations to all and sundry?