Weekly Rochester Events #225: Wilkes-Barre is one Hot Town
Thursday, May 1, 2003On Monday I tried out that TestDate thing down at Tapas One Seventy Seven (177 Saint Paul St.) It was ... well, okay, I guess. There were only 13 people--5 women and 8 men. The guy who runs it said he'd knock $4 off because there were so few people and said he'd do the same for any of us who showed up at the next one. I thought that kind of sucked ... he said that they usually get around 40 or 50 people—something that would be an entirely different experience. Since we were among the pioneers in Rochester, we get to pay $20 this time and $20 next time (instead of just $24 next time) and supposedly we'll do word-of-mouth advertising and bring in tons of people. If it were up to me, I'd write off the whole day as an advertising loss and offer everyone free entry at the next event in the middle of May.
Okay, so I wasn't really pleased with the business side of things. We gambled a bit with the weather and it turned out okay—we were outdoors in the back area of Tapas and it got a bit chilly after dark, but it wasn't too bad. I was a little concerned as I'm writing this because the website says you'll hear back within 48 hours of your meeting, and it's right about 48 hours now and I finally did get a response.
Anyway, I thought the event ran okay. The gender roles were reversed from usual as the women moved around and the men stayed still (since the numbers were so skewed ... ordinarily the men move around and the women stay still.) So I sat there and I got to talk with one woman at a time for about 4 or 5 minutes at a time. Then the women would move on and I'd get to talk to someone else.
I thought I'd do okay at this, but I don't think I was very impressive. It was hectic, and I was frustrated that I didn't get the chance to finish the conversation each of us started so I decided to indicate that I wanted to meet just about everyone I talked with. I also think that all the people who showed up on this particular night were more apt to try something new, a trait that I like.
Although four minutes is enough to get a feeling for another person, it's too short to get to know them very well. The big big plus is that you walk into the room and see all these women, you'll get to meet them all—especially the ones you're interested in. Plus you get to meet the ones who you ordinarily wouldn't give a second chance. If you're open, you might be surprised.
So I guess I might go back. I talked with the guy who runs it and I tried to coerce him into giving me a better deal on the next event. Regardless of any preferential treatment, I might not go back. I still don't want to be dating anyone, I just want to meet new people. It's particularly hard to explain to people ... I was using that as a leading question ("Why are you doing this?") but then didn't have a good answer when I was asked. I also felt pretty bad after having explained some of my goals to people and realizing that I hadn't made any friggin' progress on any of them.
Enough of that for now. I've written a bit already and won't pad things out very much highlighting things from the listings below. I do want to mention that The BuddhaHood will probably not be at The Club at Water Street (204 N. Water St.) tonight despite what Freetime Magazine says.
Let me also add that I really mean to go to see the Wide Open Mike at Verb Café at Writers and Books (740 University Ave.) sometime. In February, I missed it because I went to Daily Perks (389 Gregory St.) to see comedy ... it was one of their Friday performance shows, and the line-up was pretty good. In March, I did the same thing ... I was supposed to meet a friend there but it didn't pan out; the show was good, though. In April I was supposed to have a meeting with a group about a new arts magazine, but that was the weekend of the ice storm and it turns out the meeting got cancelled—by the time I figured that out, it was too late. And now this month I'm going to go to the Movies on a Shoestring show.
Speaking of Movies on a Shoestring, Movies on a Shoestring is this weekend. As a gift to you all, I thought I'd pre-write reviews of all the films by examining the descriptions presented by the Movies on a Shoestring website and assuming that each film follows every short film stereotype. You know, gritty camerawork, or comedies where the lead character addresses the camera. If you've been to see a lot of independent short films, you'll recognize a bunch of clichés in them. I tried to capture as much as I could, but some of the movies genuinely seemed original and I did a crappy job making potential-fun of them.
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